Dear Recently Divorced Me,
I am writing you this letter almost seven years after that event that you thought was the worst of your life, the end of it. Do you remember how much you cried? How you begged to solve the problems? Do you remember how angry you were? Well, I want to tell you that all that sadness and anger shall pass, little by little. And of course, eventually, you will find a way for closure, and I can assure you that you will jump up and down out of joy when you do that.
I can also assure you that there will be better times when you realize that all that sadness and anger was worth it. You can’t see it right now, but little by little you’ll open your eyes and will see that getting a divorce may not have been the best thing, but it was the most adequate. Look at everything you have been able to achieve! Look at your healthy children and the relationship you have with them now! Look how they compare and prefer the mom you are today!
I know right now you feel like you are drowning, and you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I promise you the light is closer than you think. I do encourage you to take any necessary actions to help yourself move forward. This may be taking a bath of honey, casting spells, lighting candles, hitting a pillow, going to therapy, having sex, love and hate. Do anything you need to do and don’t listen to other people’s opinions, although well-intended.
The last thing you need when you are crying is being told to stay calm. Also, don’t wish ill on anyone because it only hurts yourself. The only thing you need is to be heard without judgment while you chew and spit one hundred thousand expletives to those that hurt you so deeply. Later on, you’ll see the sun and you will decide whether you forgive, forget or become completely intransigent.
I wish you could see me today, seven years after your divorce, you would be so proud for everything you have accomplished! Keep moving forward, you have the right to be happy, regardless of the circumstances. I promise you that happiness is closer than you can imagine.
Yourself, seven years in the future